Spirituality Health Magazine Issue May June 08
check this article out!!!
REASONS FOR SEX
in the latest may june SPIRITUALITY HEALTH MAG.
you can get the mag on line or at most stores.
here’s a small excerpt from it.
i wrote the small column
dancer explores her inner bonobo.
http://www.spirituality-health.com/spirit/
a prayer for SEX
Humans are the only species that prefers
sex in private, while all other animals, especially
our closest relatives (chimps and
bonobos), have sex in public. and while
bonobos frequently enjoy the “missionary
position,” it is only humans for whom
the face-to-face sexual encounter seems
to be the norm. these characteristics
make human sex unique and intimate in a
way that is lacking in other animals.
yes, we are animals and clearly we have
a lot in common with other primates, but
the idea of jada, which makes any sexual
encounter a potential encounter with
the Divine, is mirrored in most, if not all,
religions. and those negative elements,
those stories we’ve learned to tell, the
myths we have ingested about the sin of
sex are neither in our biological make-up
nor at the core of our religious stories.
S&H
“a dancer explores her inner bonobo”
i’m almost 50 years old, and I’ve been dancing with
community continuously for 18 years. I’ve gone from
dancing defensively — “DON’T TOUCH ME”
— to dancing with full-body contact; arms, legs, and hair
entangled, or rolling all over other people in a puppy
pile on the floor.
I have started community ecstatic dances in several
different cities and still ask myself what’s going on?
Does the dance endorse inappropriate touch?
Are my boundaries getting lost?
Is all this touch consensual?
What about my partner?
How can I jump in and not get hurt?
How do I know whom I can touch?
What is safe touch?
If I did this in a “public” dance, would it start a brawl?
If we’re so spiritual, why are we dancing like wild savages?
To explore all these questions would take a book, but I
do know that you can unleash your inner bonobo in dance,
enhance a monogamous relationship,
and feel welcomed to return. It all starts with your intentions:
Dance innocently / Be curious. Be authentic. Be spontaneous.
I wait until I’m moved to move by the dance.
Each dance is fresh and new.
Dance with integrity / Be committed to exploring
yourself even when you’re dancing with someone else.
Remember, you are your primary partner for life!
You are the center of your universe. Know yourself.
Stretch your boundaries / Your boundaries are
elastic just like your heart muscle.
Be generous in giving and receiving love.
This is your sacred playground.
Play fair. Take turns.
Dance barefoot / You’ll feel more grounded barefoot.
You will also be more willing to fall off balance
and be swept off your feet.
Keep your eyes open / Be responsible for yourself.
Open Eyes, Open Heart! Be willing to see and respond.
Our body language speaks louder than words.
See what you’re saying and see what others are saying with their bodies.
Dance selflessly but indulgently /
Imagine everybody expressing their own unique magic,
their own form of love. This is how we create peace on this planet.
Being free requires responsibility.
We’re all responsible for creating a magical time.
bare your Soul /
Imagine communicating so clearly from your heart
that your words and your body gestures
say the same thing.
What if we’re evolved bonobos in a human suit?
“Monkey see, monkey do.”
I am moving through the world with my eyes and heart wide open.
I bare my soul and all the while I am selfless and indulgent. S&H
Carola Marashi, founder of Body Choir, has established dances in Austin TX, SantaFe, Seattle, Houston, and Ashand, Oregon. email carola@bodychoir.org.
